“Hi” is easy to ignore. Specific beats generic.
Formulas that work
- Comment on a profile detail (hobby, neighbourhood vibe, prompt answer).
- Ask one easy question.
- Keep it light; save intense topics for later.
Examples
- “Your café photo looks great — any favourite spot in the city for a first chat meet?”
- “Also into weekend treks — any recent trail you liked?”
- “Saw we both want friends first — want to swap playlist recommendations?”
More on tone: friends vs dating. Practice on queer chat.